Handling Criticism, Biblically

Nobody likes being criticized. Especially, when the criticism is indirect, or worse, behind your back.

But, if you’re doing anything or responsible for something, chances are good you’re going to receive some criticism.

How do you respond to criticism gracefully and with wisdom?

For starters, you should know that not all criticism requires a response. If people aren’t willing to say it to your face, then what does it matter?

Next, turn to Scripture for wisdom. Reflect on the example Jesus set. Jesus, the Son of God, faced all sorts of false accusations and criticism throughout His earthly ministry. His disciple, Peter, shared in 1 Peter 2:23, “When he was reviled, he did not revile in return; when he suffered, he did not threaten, but continued entrusting himself to him who judges justly.” Jesus teaches us the importance of not retaliating but instead placing our trust in God, who knows the truth of every situation.

Criticism hurts. Especially when it’s not true. I get it. Trust me.

God’s word, the Holy Bible, encourages us to respond to others with love and patience. Proverbs 15:1 says, “A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” If you’re going to respond, respond gently. Who knows, maybe this leads to opening the door for a constructive conversation.

It is also wise to consider the content of the criticism to see if there is any truth to it that can promote personal growth. Proverbs 19:20 advises, “Listen to advice and accept instruction, that you may gain wisdom in the future.” Even if the delivery is flawed, valuable insights can sometimes be gleaned.

Doing the work I do, I illicit unsolicited criticism. I have to prayerfully discern what to listen to and how to receive it.

Odds are, you do, too.

In cases where criticism is unfounded or malicious, it’s important to maintain your integrity and avoid being drawn into conflict. Romans 12:17-18 counsels us wisely, “Repay no one evil for evil, but give thought to do what is honorable in the sight of all. If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.”

Lastly, seek support and counsel within your faith community, as Galatians 6:2 teaches, “Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ.” Sharing your experiences with trusted fellow believers can provide comfort, guidance, and perspective.

Listen: unwarranted criticism hurts; criticism that is true—stings. Learn to take what’s helpful and discard the rest.

Remember, your worth is not defined by the opinions of others but by your identity in Christ. Stay focused on living a life that is pleasing to God, “for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” (Galatians 6:9)

Praying for us. We are all works in progress.

You are loved.

Rainer Bantau —The Devotional Guy™