Life, Love, and Loss: Unpacking Grief

Experience teaches us that grief is not linear. Loss is part of the human condition.

Since my sister-in-law’s unexpected passing, loss and grief are regular topics of discussion and exploration at our home. From past posts, you know that death is not an unfamiliar subject for me. Unfortunately, I encounter it far too often in my line of work. Grappling with grief fueled my art exhibition “When Your Days End In Why.”

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Stages of Grief

The stages of grief, often drawn from Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’s model, include:

1. Denial – A numbing or disbelief that helps cushion the initial shock.
2. Anger – Frustration and often questions like, “Why did this happen?”
3. Bargaining – Seeking ways to avoid the loss or mitigate the full brunt of its consequences.
4. Depression – A deep sadness, often reflecting a person’s recognition of the loss’s impact.
5. Acceptance – Acknowledging the reality of the loss and finding ways to move forward.

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Like I said earlier, the stages of grief aren’t linear; people experience them out of order and in varying intensities. It’s not uncommon or unusual to revisit previous stages. Sometimes, it may seem like we are simply running in circles.

People grieve differently. There’s no textbook manual on how to grieve properly. You just do it.

Grief isn’t limited to humans. We mourn the loss of our beloved pets. We can lament missed opportunities, broken relationships, and lost jobs.

When we grieve we often search for meaning, purpose, and compassion.

Loss changes the way things were. It leads to growth or demise. Truthfully, it changes who we are.

As difficult as it may be, grieving leads to healing.

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Are you loved? Do you think anyone knows you’re here? Is there someone in your life who sees you and loves you just the way you are? You are enough, my friend. You are enough.

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What is your experience with grief? Can you share some insights you’ve gained about coping with loss?

Until our next conversation…

Remember:

God is good. All the time. 

No matter what.

Don’t worry about what’s next. Enjoy what’s now. 

Love, peace, and joy,

Rainer Bantau —The Devotional Guy™

#JesusStrong