Cultivating Gentleness in a Time of Growing Violence

In an era marked by turmoil, division, and violence, cultivating gentleness seems like a challenging, however profoundly rewarding endeavor. In an age when violence seems the norm Scripture reminds us of the value the Lord places on gentleness.

In his letter to the Christians trying to live out their faith in Galatia, the Apostle Paul tells us that gentleness is a fruit of the Spirit.

Galatians 5:22-23 NIV

But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.

Today, I am sharing some steps that I believe help us cultivate gentleness in our Christian walk.

Reflect on God’s Example

Good news! You and I can look to Jesus as the perfect example of gentleness. In Matthew 11:28-30, Christ invites us to come to Him, saying, “Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.”

Practice Active Listening

When engaging with others, especially in political discussions, we should try to listen more than we speak. This can be hard, but we can get better with practice. Practicing intentional and active listening helps us foster greater understanding and reduce conflict.

James 1:19 NIV

Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.

Respond with Kindness

You and I can start by intentionally and actively embracing the principle Jesus taught in Matthew 5:44, “But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.”

By choosing to respond with kindness rather than escalating an already contentious situation, we defuse anger and promote gentleness in a way that honors and glorifies Christ.

Seek Peace

The Apostle Paul, in Romans 14:19, “Let us therefore make every effort to do what leads to peace and to mutual edification.”

As witnesses to the transforming power of the Gospel, we do well to focus on actions that build others up rather than tear them down.

Pray for Strength

As in all things, we must seek God’s guidance in prayer. We can ask the Holy Spirit to instill gentleness within us, enabling us to handle conflicts with grace and compassion.

In recent months, as I’ve tried to cope with the effects of PTSD, I’ve tried to do this more frequently. I know from experience that prayer works.

As we begin to practice implementing these Biblical principles into our daily spiritual walk, it may be helpful to remember that gentleness can be a powerful witness to those around us, truly reflecting the love of Christ in a world that often feels on the brink of uncompromising conflict.

The world tells us that shouting louder wins the day, but both history and the Bible teach us otherwise. Gentleness has the power to heal, to de-escalate, and to witness to the possibility of a different kingdom, one that is not built on violence but on peace. Gentleness transforms hearts and minds and wins souls.

Gentleness is what our world needs today more than ever. Let us strive to be more gentle in spirit, not because it’s easy, but because it’s Christlike.